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5 Things Everyone Needs to Know About Verbal Abuse

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Verbal abuse  (also known as reviling or "  verbal  bullying") is described as a negative defining statement told to the victim or about the victim, or by withholding any response, thereby defining the target as non-existent.  The most maddening—and the most common—response I get when I write about the daughters and sons of unloving mothers is that people point out that the ones I write about were "only" ( quotations marks mine, and meant ironically ) verbally  abused. Science knows better, but the culture does not; the mantra seems to be that if you’re not bleeding or physically maimed, you’re not  really  hurt. Words  are  powerful: They can lift us up and beat us down, soothe us or wound us. Here’s a brief run-down of what science knows about verbal aggression and which you should too, especially if you’re a parent or just a member of the human  race . Verbal aggression and abuse can be part of an intimate relationship or  friendship  but it also shows up